Formalities

This page deals with the formalities that have to be carried out following your baby's death, and sets out what arrangements you can make for a funeral for your baby. It is very hard to cope with such arrangements when you are grieving and in distress, but it may help you to know what exactly has to be done, and what choices you have.

Taking time

Doing things in your own time, and at your own pace is important. It is only the registration of the death which has to be completed within a certain time, otherwise there is no need to feel pressured to make decisions. It will help you in the future if you know that you took time over the arrangements to make the best possible decisions. Your baby will be kept safely until you have made your choices.

By law, your baby must either be buried or cremated, and there are several ways in which this can be arranged. Most parents need time to talk with each other. It is vital that decisions are reached together and are not rushed. Some fathers think that by hiding their emotions, they will be a better support to the mother. This can have the opposite effect, as the mother may think he does not care and may feel more lonely.

If you are a single parent, you may need someone to whom you can turn for help and support.

If you would like to see your baby either in hospital, or after you leave, discuss this with the Ward Sister, your midwife, or your Funeral Director.